So, what actually happened during this VIP weekend with me, Amanda and Angela?

Well to begin with, Angela’s calendar went from blank to not blank … and she’s feeling more freedom, not less.

You see, Angela had achieved what many business owners want, at least what they think they want: a million dollar business, and a completely open calendar.

Except that desire for an empty calendar is a false flag of freedom that’s actually a trap created by the rebellious teenager inside of us that is driving the desire for freedom.

If you have a part of you that is a “don’t tell me what to do” part, and that thinks things like “if I have a lot on my calendar, I feel trapped” and has built your business to support your empty calendar, congratulations … you’ve hit a level of success that few ever get to, AND that empty calendar is keeping you trapped.

How can that be?  Read on …

So we spent the first morning of our time together looking at what she really wants.

I first began to do this for myself in 2010 when I had achieved all of my first level of success, and couldn’t go any higher.

On paper, I was free.

I had created 2 million dollar businesses, was “first level” famous as a family financial and legal expert on TV, and was in a relationship with the love of my life.

Yet, I cried everyday because I felt so empty and lost inside, and I had no idea why.

I could do whatever I wanted. But I didn’t know what I wanted to do. 

It took me hiring an interim CEO to run my Company, cut all my overhead by half, and get on the phone with me everyday and ask me “Lex, what do you want?” As I whined back, “I don’t know.” 

It took me walking away from everything to find out.

The good news for Angela is that she doesn’t need to do all that because instead she came out to Costa Rica to work with me and Amanda to get clear and create a plan of action before she “Kali-Ma’d” everything to find out what she really wants. 

It turns out, Angela is actually very clear. 

I’ve heard her talking about what she wants for the 2 years since I met her.

And, yet, I’ve also watched her continue to hire one coach after another, and still not create it.

So, here we are … in Costa Rica, mapping out the path to get there.

As soon as we sit down and I ask Angela to show me her calendar, the first thing I see is that Angela is too free. There’s nothing at all on her calendar.

A blank slate that feels like freedom, but which is actually keeping her from achieving her dreams, spinning around amongst the options and the freedom, like a wild top without any containment.

Too much choice, and too much freedom, can keep us from having what we really want more than anything.

It’s a level, a stage, and not the final destination.

The path to creating what she wants could even look and feel a whole lot like a constriction on her freedom.

Discipline.

Focus.

Hiring a team, and becoming the leader she has no training to be.

Mastering her calendar.

Changing the way she does things so that she’s not the only one doing everything, and has an army of people working alongside her to at least partially replicate what she can do single-handedly.

You see, Angela is a savant.

She’s one of those geniuses that so many lawyers are who can handle a massive amount of information in her head.

She can attract 1:1 clients, and track details in a way that allowed her to serve over $900k of clients last year, by herself. 

Savant.

But, that leaves her zero time for anything else.

Which means she hasn’t launched her Caravan of Hope (an annual tour during Pride Month across the US to provide legal services to underserved LGBTQIA+ communities), yet.

And, she hasn’t created her training program to teach lawyers to serve the LGBTQIA community, yet.

She hasn’t run her virtual summit, yet

Thanks to our work together this past weekend, all of that will now happen this year.

For Angela to go from a 1:1 model, in which she serves approximately 100 to 120 clients or so per year, to a 1: many model in which she serves thousands of people in a year, something’s got to give.

It’s the same thing that needed to give for me to make my own leap of impact back in 2010, except I didn’t know that’s what Life wanted … and so instead of learning to get disciplined in service to more freedom, I indulged the escape fantasy, killed everything I created, and moved to a farm to find out who I was, if money didn’t matter and I had all the time in the world.

It was an important time for me to grow up and get into right relationship with time and money, and what I learned is that discipline creates freedom, and that there is a way to be a leader that creates more expansion of capacity, rather than less.

I needed to detach from my ideas of what freedom was – a young, rebellious, almost peter pan type of freedom — into a next level understanding of true liberation. A turn of the wheel. A leveling up.

Each turn of the wheel will require letting go of what you’ve always done to liberate yourself into something new. Detachment. It’s the 3rd stage of the 4-stage spiral path I call the Journey to Financial Liberation.

It’s the case for Angela as she goes from 1:1 to 1:many, and it’s the same for me as I go from a 7.5M/year serving 1:many to over $10M/year and serving many millions …

The last time I attempted a leap this big, I dropped it all, spiraled down for a bit, and 

Letting go of what you’ve always done to liberate yourself into something new.

It’s confronting as fuck because it seems to take away freedom, rather than give you more. And, it seems to cost you money, rather than give you more. 

The detachment stage of the journey is a paradox.

When I was here last turn of the wheel myself, I just dropped all of it and walked away because I didn’t know how to do it otherwise. Many do exactly that … 

Now, what I’m guiding Angela to do, and what I’m doing with myself, is to detach from an old, limited, almost teenager-like, immature idea of freedom, and step into the next level of liberation.

Adulthood.

Eldership.

Growing up.

And, yes, for Angela, at this time, that looks like discipline, focus, going from a blank calendar to a VERY FULL, VERY SCHEDULED, MASTERY OF HER CALENDAR, and next will be mastery of her financials at a very detail level too.

To the part that has to detach, the rebellious one who got us here to the top of this first mountain, it can feel like death.

It is. A death of a part that needs to die, so that something new can be born.

It’s a new life.

It’s a new level of liberation that is far beyond what the rebellious teenager ever could have accomplished on her own, no matter how smart or savvy she is.

It’s time for new skills.

It’s time for new choices.

It’s time for a new willingness, and new abilities.

Liberation.

If you ever worry that your market is saturated, or you aren’t sure how to get a steady stream of clients, or wonder where your next new client is going to come from, or find yourself dreaming about the day when your calendar is overflowing with new business…

I’ve got a new masterclass for you! I’m going to show you how to Use Independent Civic Stewardship to Create Unparalleled Demand for Your Law Practice. 

You’ll discover how participating in local civic affairs is good for you, your community, your law practice and your career as a lawyer. 

It’s what lawyers always did, and don’t do as much anymore because we’re just so busy building businesses, raising kids and the like… but when you see how it can help your community and build your law practice at the same time, I think it’s going to be a game-changer for you.

Be sure to book time in your calendar to join us live on February 7th at 2:30pm ET if you possibly can. Or, if you already know you can’t make it live, register now and schedule time in your calendar to watch the recording afterward, so when we send it out, you can watch and take action. 

I look forward to seeing you there!

Wow, this event with me and Kim Rockwood was so good, if you’ve ever struggled with managing your time … we lay out the solution right here. Here’s what a few of the lawyers who attended said about it: