Ali Katz

I cannot believe I’m doing this …

If you were around these parts last year, you’ll remember that on 2/22/2022, I got married … to myself.

And, while I shared some of the story, I never shared all of it.

And, I never shared the actual wedding video itself.

Or really told the complete story of the transformational process that began when I created my marriage contract (my ketubah), had a formal engagement ceremony, and then married myself.

What I’ve discovered over the past year is that the marriage contract, engagement and wedding process were a portal of transformation that radically and dramatically changed my life.

  • I’ve healed a lifetime of challenges around belonging. 
  • I’ve stepped into my personal power in a whole new way. 
  • I’ve reclaimed the places I was steeped in drama triangles, and broken free. 
  • I’ve solved any last issues around scarcity. 
  • And I’m no longer boy crazy, like I was since kindergarten (still love boys, just not crazy about it anymore).

So, as my gift to myself, and to everyone else who may desire this sort of transformation in their own lives, I’m producing a “I’m not even sure what to call it” about the entire experience … mini-documentary perhaps? If you have a name for a thing that tells a story, that isn’t quite a documentary, but that shares a story and its lessons in video form, please hit reply and LMK.

I’m going all in with this. You can follow the journey in my stories on Insta or my Fan Page on Facebook (the stories don’t make it to my personal profile on FB, so if you want to follow along … you need to be on the Fan Page).

Filming begins on Thursday. I’m flying out a film crew. I’ve hired a storyteller, an executive producer, and I’m doing this. It feels a lot like the entire marriage contract to wedding portal did, honestly. I’m doing my part, but it’s clearly being guided by Life itself, and I’m just listening, showing up, and taking action by saying yes when it’s clear that there is a yes to be said.

It’s taken years to get to this level of clarity and discernment, and I think what I share in this “documentary” series will help you get there a lot more quickly.

Stay tuned. So much more to come.

To your eyes (and heart) wide open,

Ali Katz

PS. So very grateful to Wendy Ramirez for this unsolicited testimonial about her experience in Eyes Wide Open: the membership and with our LIFT Foundation System program this past year. Swoon …

For the Lawyers We Love … Get the Recording and Take Control of Your Calendar Now

Wow, this event with me and Kim Rockwood was so good, if you’ve ever struggled with managing your time … we lay out the solution right here. Here’s what a few of the lawyers who attended said about it:

Join me and Kim Rockwood, Personal Family Lawyer + NLBM Senior Law Business Advisor and Success Coach, to learn and apply:

3 Time Management Strategies for Consistent Law Practice Growth How to Get It All Done: Keep Your Calendar Under Control and Get All the Clients You Need

Quick Links:

I’ve recently been featured on the following radio shows:

In this discussion Ali touches on the beauty of death’s wisdom. Healing a family legacy of distrust and sharing important basics on preparing yourself, and your family legally for the most graceful transition possible. She invites you to be prepared for the unexpected and use practical tools such as a will, a health care directive, and/or a power of attorney to support your family foundation. She supports you in developing awareness around who you can rely on; as waiting to plan for the unexpected is an invaluable price- death comes when death comes. You and your family deserve the most ease in this mysterious transition of life.

  • Ali’s interview on KDKA – a dialogue on Money and Family

How can we approach the topic of finances and death with our elders’ in the most considerate and loving  manner? It’s a sensitive topic discussing money and death! Ali sheds light on how to use vulnerable communication skills when approaching your loved ones to open a dialogue around what’s next with family money after the loss of a loved one. Ali shares and shows the value of shifting from the child archetype to the nurturer/parental archetype- so you can step into your adulthood, and care for your elders; perhaps even far better than they knew how to care for you. This is the evolutionary process, and you are an integral part of it. Ali educates you on practical ways you can simplify the container for easy digestibility with the right conversation, legal tools and planning support.

Facing life and death is an opportunity to put genuine philosophy of integrity into action- How would you like your family and the world to remember you? What does it truly mean to be a lawyer today? How do we break free of the barriers of conditioning about what it means to work in law? 

In this discussion, Ali talks about the root of purpose and leaning into building resources that are also in alignment with your highest service. For her, being a Lawyer is more than upholding the traditional values of law- it is a sacred responsibility to build and enforce the framework for a more wholesome society. No matter what your purpose is, being a lawyer, chef, teacher, entrepreneur, coach, etc., understanding the value of your life and life’s work will support peaceful transitions within as well as beyond your life. 

Are you checking out Ali’s socials? She’s been live posting from Costa Rica, and this is going to be a big week you won’t want to miss. Catch Ali’s stories on Instagram or her Ali Katz “fan page” on Facebook.

If you haven’t already, be sure to follow @personalfamilylawyer on TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram 

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Join the Lifestyle Lawyer’s Club Facebook Group of 1.7k+ lawyers like you⚖️

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Wow, what a year! Eyes Wide Open end of year “F” up … Preview: How to Clean it Up

As the year turned from 2022 to 2023, I almost ruined my life. At least that’s how it seemed. I made a choice on New Year’s Eve that triggered a core wound so deep that I literally felt as if my personal, professional, and social life was over.

I shared all the details on my Eyes Wide Open: the Membership call last night, but I’ll give you a little overview here because it may be able to help you, in case you weren’t there.

If you are a member, be sure to listen to the recording because I went deep into this + how I almost lost my Company in 2022, but got back 100% control on January 3, 2023 — woohoo!

And, how I handled crypto losses + a loan that didn’t get paid back in such a way that it’s all now coming back to me plus plus.

Finally, this piece …  the core wound that got touched, and how I handled it to create more of what I want instead of a repeat of old patterns of separation and pain. 

Eyes Wide Open CORE WOUND Resolution …

I have a big wound around belonging. 

Ever since kindergarten when cute little Peggy McGee with the blue eyes and blond braids didn’t want to be my friend, and excluded me from playing with her and my best friend, Melissa, I’ve repeated a pattern of exclusion.

It’s part of why I am so inclusive in my life today. 

This pattern has repeated many times throughout my life, and the biggest pain of it occurred in high school when I did one very unattuned thing that resulted in my becoming an outcast for all of my high school years. A pariah. Called a slut while walking through the halls. All of it resulting in my not being able to go to any parties in my high school years, in a fist fight on my 16th birthday at the big football game, and a “gang” of mean girls coming to my house later to fight me again. It was super painful.

I was extremely sensitive, very confused, possibly on the spectrum of neurodivergence in some way, and none of the social dynamics made sense to me.

Now, I get it all. Phew, that was a long and hard road to travel. 

The good news is that I’ve not only recovered from these painful events, I’ve become a woman who knows how to make friends, be a friend, and as one of my close friends recently said — Ali, most people can only handle relationships with at maximum 150 or so people (Dunbar’s people), but you somehow manage to be close with thousands of people. He was exaggerating, but it’s true because of these past experiences and the way I’ve grown through them, I hold intimate relationships with a LARGE extended community.

I’m able to do so because I’ve learned to navigate my own wounding, feel what’s here, take responsibility for it, and heal it in a way that has built tremendous self trust.

So the night of New Year’s Eve was a perfect example. I accidentally crossed a boundary with someone I had only recently met, and until I got to the other side, I couldn’t see any way to recover from my transgression.

To protect me from the pain of my actions, my mind wanted to do all sorts of things with what my higher self knew was a clear fuck up on my part.

  1. It wanted to reject all the people who I was afraid would reject me for my action (preemptive rejection is a strong strategy of protection — look at where you might be doing that in your own life to keep yourself safe).

  2. It wanted to pretend what I did wasn’t that big a deal and the other person shouldn’t be upset.

  3. It wanted to convince me that it wasn’t that big of a deal, and shrug it off as if it didn’t really matter.

But, my body, my heart, and my soul could see (eyes wide open) the truth, and wasn’t willing to accept any of that, even though in some ways perhaps it would have been easier to dismiss my responsibility for what occurred.

By dismissing my responsibility, though, I would have lost the huge benefit that accompanied the events … When we get to the core of a wound, feel it all the way through, and heal it by taking full eyes wide open responsibility- miracles occur.

Here’s what that looked like:

As I was in the catastrophic thinking that accompanies the triggering of a core wound, sure I had ruined my life, I was able to both be in the feelings and the fear, and also connect with my higher self — the part of me who knew that something important and valuable was happening — and that part was able to remind me to stick with my fear, and keep feeling it and find the gold.

The only gold I could see was that somehow this experience would result in more intimacy on the other side of what felt like exclusion and outcasting just like when I was in kindergarten and high school (and probably in many past lives as well).

And that’s exactly what occurred.

On the other side of the event that created the massive separation and wound, I asked for help from some people I was already close with (creating more intimacy and connection), and then the next day when I woke up, I reached out vulnerably to some people who were newer in my life and asked for connection and support.

Plus, I reached out to the person whose boundary I had crossed and took full responsibility for my actions. 

What showed up was exactly what I had prayed for — more intimacy, more connection, more love — the exact opposite of what happened in kindergarten and high school, when I didn’t have the tools of adulthood that I have now.

I didn’t pre-emptively reject, I didn’t pretend it wasn’t a big deal to me or the other person (and it was in fact such a big deal to him that he wrote about it on his own Facebook wall), and I got vulnerable and asked for support in showing up and cleaning it up.

As a result, I didn’t ruin my life, but instead made it exponentially better. 

And, now, thanks to all of that happening, I’m going on a trip to Egypt this Spring with the people I thought I ruined my relationship with, and that I’ve been wishing I could hang out with for a long time.

Best of all, I’m taking my own adult kids with me. 

Even better than that, it’s all led me to understand something I almost couldn’t see hidden behind my core wounds, and all the ways I’ve been operating in the world to keep me from feeling the things I was most afraid of were creating exactly what I was most afraid of … more on that one another day.

This was plenty for today. Before you go, don’t miss the features below of Practical Magic (there’s still time to plan your year using practical tools and magic) + the time management workshop I’m hosting for lawyers today + the radio show appearances you may want to check out.

To your eyes (and heart) wide open,
Ali Katz

WE DID IT! Practical Magic to See Your Life + Business Dreams Come to Life, Faster Than You Can Imagine

Practical Magic to See Your Life + Business Dreams Come to Life

If you ever wished you could make all the money you need by giving your gifts, or you are ready to take your existing business to the next level… join me to map out the exact next steps you need to take to create the future reality you want. I’m taking you through the step-by-step process I’ve used repeatedly with myself and my clients to create exponential growth  — combining magic + practical action to fast track your results and bring your dreams into reality sooner than you thought possible!

We call it practical magic… manifestation in action

When you get the recording you will:

  • See the 3-year vision for your life and business with crystal clarity, including the income you make, the impact you create, the team you build, and the lifestyle you live.
  • Map the exact actions and process to fast track your 3 year vision into reality.
  • Knowing exactly where to focus your time, energy, attention and money over the next 90 days to create the highest return on investment of your resources and bring your vision into reality easier and faster than you think possible.
  • ​Stop wasting your time on “busy” tasks and instead focus on the high leverage activities that move you forward.
  • ​Receive 3 simple strategies to triple the likelihood of you accomplishing your goals and turning your vision into your real life. Most of the people who have applied this strategic vision planning process in their life and business see their dreams come true in just one year, as a result of using this process.
  • ​Learn a proven-to-work process to use when you feel stuck, overcome all challenges, get back on the horse when you fall off, so you are able to keep moving forward.

Click here to sign up: https://liftfoundation.com/3yearworkshop

For the Lawyers We Love … It’s TODAY + It’s Free!

3 TIME MANAGEMENT STRATEGIES FOR CONSISTENT LAW PRACTICE GROWTH

I’ve accomplished a lot in my life—raised 2 young adults, built multiple million dollar businesses, wrote multiple best-selling books—and the only way I have been able to do it all has been because I mastered my calendar.

I resisted it for years, and then had a major breakthrough and realized that mastering my calendar was the key to my happiness and freedom.

If you’ve tried to master your calendar before, and gotten stuck, or couldn’t do it, make this new year the time that you learn a new way. I’m certain we can get you to a breakthrough that will result in all the time and money you need to have a life you love.  

Join me and Kim Rockwood, Personal Family Lawyer + NLBM Senior Law Business Advisor and Success Coach, to learn and apply:

3 Time Management Strategies for Consistent Law Practice Growth How to Get It All Done: Keep Your Calendar Under Control and Get All the Clients You Need

January 18th at 3 PM ET/12 PM PT

In just 75-minutes, Kim and I will show you how she reclaimed control of her time to grow her law practice in 1 year from just $500/mo to consistently generating over $40,000/mo while also dealing with complex family and personal matters.

Register here if you haven’t already: http://www.newlawbusinessmodel.com/timemanagement

I hope to see you there!

Quick Links:

I’ve recently been featured on the following radio shows:

In this discussion Ali touches on the beauty of death’s wisdom. Healing a family legacy of distrust and sharing important basics on preparing yourself, and your family legally for the most graceful transition possible. She invites you to be prepared for the unexpected and use practical tools such as a will, a health care directive, and/or a power of attorney to support your family foundation. She supports you in developing awareness around who you can rely on; as waiting to plan for the unexpected is an invaluable price- death comes when death comes. You and your family deserve the most ease in this mysterious transition of life.

  • Ali’s interview on KDKA – a dialogue on Money and Family

How can we approach the topic of finances and death with our elders’ in the most considerate and loving  manner? It’s a sensitive topic discussing money and death! Ali sheds light on how to use vulnerable communication skills when approaching your loved ones to open a dialogue around what’s next with family money after the loss of a loved one. Ali shares and shows the value of shifting from the child archetype to the nurturer/parental archetype- so you can step into your adulthood, and care for your elders; perhaps even far better than they knew how to care for you. This is the evolutionary process, and you are an integral part of it. Ali educates you on practical ways you can simplify the container for easy digestibility with the right conversation, legal tools and planning support.

Facing life and death is an opportunity to put genuine philosophy of integrity into action- How would you like your family and the world to remember you? What does it truly mean to be a lawyer today? How do we break free of the barriers of conditioning about what it means to work in law? 

In this discussion, Ali talks about the root of purpose and leaning into building resources that are also in alignment with your highest service. Being a Lawyer is more than upholding the traditional values of law- it is a sacred responsibility to build and enforce the framework for a more wholesome society.

“I’d love for us to stay connected! I love to see you on my socials. I read it all, and your engagement matters immensely.” ~ Ali Katz 

If you haven’t already, be sure to follow @personalfamilylawyer on TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram 

Follow Ali on Instagram to keep up with her journey 📱

Follow New Law Business Model on Instagram for Law Practice Pivots📈

Join the Lifestyle Lawyer’s Club Facebook Group of 1.7k+ lawyers like you⚖️

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Not a Lawyer? Click here to join Eyes Wide Open Membership today🤝

The most important week of the year

This is the week that sets the foundation not just your next year, but your next 3 years.

So, whether you are working or not, spending time with family and friends or not, you are most certainly spending time with yourself … and in that time, you have the opportunity to make a choice about your next year.

So dream into it now.

Where will you be on December 26, 2025?
What will be true for you then?
How will it be different than this year, or your last 3 years?
What will occur between now and then?

You set the vision now, and you’ll be amazed at the ways that life shows up to align your opportunities to meet your desires.

It’s because of this process that I’m writing this to you from my 2nd home in Costa Rica, where I now spend my winters, while I serve clients from all across the world.

It’s because of this process that I built my law practice into a million dollar revenue-generating business in just 3 years, even though I knew nothing about business back then.

So many dreams I only once dreamed are now reality because of this process. And, I’m inviting you to dream with me.

You really can create your reality too.

And, if you are a left-brained logical type like me, but you would love to use the magical tools of manifestation along with the practical tools of your brain, paper, post-it notes and your calendar … I’m leading Practical Magic again, a 3-hour strategic vision planning workshop. It’s just $222 when you join this week.

Here’s the link to join: http://www.eyeswideopenlife.com/practicalmagic

So the sooner you get in, the less cost to you. And, if you wait until the last minute, no worries … I’ve waited until the last minute to buy many things, and paid more, and got exactly what I needed out of it when I did.

If you don’t want to pay for anything, here’s all the free things I’m gifting you with at the end of the year …

Catch the Recordings of The Legacy Masterclass Series

How to Talk "Money" With the People You Love ...and Why It's a MUST DO This Holiday Season

By popular demand, we’ve decided to leave this gift open for you through 12/31! So if you haven’t gotten in there yet, register now and you’ve got till the end of December to watch and learn.

Follow this link so you can take advantage of the learnings while you’re gathered with family this week: https://get.personalfamilylawyer.com/legacy-masterclass-os-1

For the lawyers…

Missed Out? Watch the Virtual Summit Recordings!

If you didn’t get to watch, you’re invited into the Lifestyle Lawyer’s Club Facebook Group where you can watch the recordings of The Greatest Online Summit Ever for Estate Planning Pros (and Those Who Want to Be).

Please note: This free December summit is my holiday gift to the estate planning community. But it will soon be transformed into a paid program, so if you want to get the recordings for free make sure you’re in the Facebook Group. Once you’re in, simply navigate to “guides” to watch what you missed. Enjoy!

The number of comments from lawyers who are absolutely loving the content has me absolutely thrilled, and I want you to get in on it too.

Want to Vote on My New Podcast?

Finally, if you want to vote on my new podcast cover and get a sneak peek of what’s coming in 2023, you can do that on Facebook or Instagram, and let me know what you like best.

And, remember, this is the most important week of your entire year.
Use it to consider the next 3 years, and the reality you want to create.
If you can dream it, you can create it.
But not just through the dreaming. There are very practical tools of your success — your brain (in service to your heart), paper, post-it notes, and your calendar. Becoming the boss of this 3d plane while you master the quantum field of the 5d is 100% possible.

I didn’t believe it, so I tested it. 

And I can assure you, it’s all true (at least in my own personal experience).

I’ll be sharing all of the details with you during Practical Magic on January 7th. Enroll here: http://www.eyeswideopenlife.com/practicalmagic.

To your eyes (and heart) wide open life,

Ali Katz 

Quick Links:

I’d love for us to stay connected! When you connect with me on social media you will be able to be even more in the know about upcoming events and registration details.

Follow Ali on Instagram to keep up with her journey 📱

Follow New Law Business Model on Instagram for Law Practice Pivots📈

Join the Lifestyle Lawyer’s Club Facebook Group of 5k lawyers like you⚖️

Subscribe to receive The Relational Lawyer newsletter to your inbox 2x a month📩

Not a Lawyer? Click here to join Eyes Wide Open Membership today🤝

Why is this happening?!?

Have you ever found yourself lamenting, why is this happening to me? If so, you sure are not alone. Back in 2007, I spent two days crying “why, oh why” when I got the letter in the mail from the IRS telling me I was being audited for my 2005 return. I knew my return was messed up because 2005 was the year I got divorced, and I had a forensic accountant say to me during the divorce process “boy, Alexis, your books are really messed up.” So I was sure I was in big trouble. But, after two days of crying, and beating myself up for my stupidity, I had a moment of awakening … I needed to stop “why”ning.  It didn’t matter why. It was happening, I was getting audited by the IRS, and my books were messed up for the year they were auditing.  Okay, so now what?! In a moment of clarity, I saw that if I could change my perspective and see that it wasn’t happening “to me” but instead it really was happening “for me”, I might just be able to find a huge gift in the challenge of the audit. And, boy did I. In that moment, I wiped my tears from my face, and decided that I would face the reality that I created those messed up books, and that the IRS audit was a gift in some way, and that I would take up the challenge to find the gift by writing the story in advance of how this audit would be the best thing that ever happened for me. So I did two things:
    1. I hired a CPA team to address the audit. I was terrified to spend money I didn’t think I had to pay for advisors I really didn’t know how to work with. (A common theme back in those days and part of why I created my LIFT Foundation program to support those of you who are still in the phase of learning how to work with legal, insurance, financial and tax matters and afraid to spend the right money on it);

    2. I made a deal with myself that every time my mind wanted to return to thinking about the audit and beating me up about something that was now out of my control, I would rip it away from the addiction and fascination with how much I sucked, and direct that mental energy to something that was within my control now … and as a result, I reclaimed all of that energy and attention that was focusing on something outside of my control, and I put it on building the new business I was creating at the time, the Family Wealth Planning Institute (my first online business).
Let’s look at what happened …
  • I ended up with a no-change on my tax audit, meaning the IRS didn’t make me pay anything additional on my 2005 taxes. This was EVEN THOUGH my books were totally messed up.
  • I used the energy and attention I was putting into beating myself up to build the Family Wealth Planning Institute into a million dollar enterprise by the following year, which today is the foundation of the business that licenses more than 400 lawyers as Personal Family Lawyer firms (PFL was first launched in 2007 during that tax audit).
  • I learned a HUGE amount about legal, insurance, financial and tax matters that I would not have otherwise had the motivation to learn. So, yes, it was happening for me. And, whatever is happening for you right now, is happening for you too. If only you can see it.If you need help seeing it, I have support for you in my membership — Eyes Wide Open: the Membership. Details here.
Just to give you a little sense of what occurs in the Membership, over the last month one of our members was facing the reality that he may need to file bankruptcy because of the $2500/mo EIDL payment coming due. We worked with him on 3 of our coaching calls, and by the 4th, he engaged a client for $111k for the year, and now he’s on track to pay back his EIDL loan. When you join the membership, you get to see exactly how that went. And perhaps get your own support. Last night, we celebrated two of my members who have been walking beside me there since before Covid … and their massive transformations with credit scores that have gone from high 500 and low 600s into the 700 and 800s, businesses they love making big profits now (after health and other personal collapses), and we’re planning out their 2023s. Next week is our monthly income model coaching call, and when you join us in the Membership, you get to watch it all unfold. And, if you aren’t ready to join the Membership or don’t have a business, here’s the free support resources we have for you between now and the end of the year. If you are a lawyer, this is happening this week … get on in there, it’s fire.

And, if you are a lawyer … this is happening this week!  And, it’s sooooo good.

The Greatest Online Summit Ever for Estate Planning Pros

The Greatest Online Summit Ever for Estate Planning Pros (and Those Who Want to Be)

December 12-16, 2022

Ditch the trial and error, and learn our insider tips for fast-tracking the growth of your estate planning practice into a business you love. (You won’t believe the value of what we’re sharing.)

You’re invited to The Greatest Online Summit Ever for Estate Planning Pros (and Those Who Want to Be) happening this week December 12-16!

I’m bringing you the best of the best resources, vendors, and service providers. Plus, you’ll also have a chance to virtually meet NLBM member lawyers and mentors who are rocking the solo law practice model, staffed practice model, or have built $MM dollar empires. These are lawyers like you who have taken action and optimized their estate planning law practices with the systems you’ll learn about. They’ve started playing like pros and making a huge impact in their communities by serving people really well.

Register today, and get in there with us. It’s free this week, as my end of year gift to you, and will be packaged as a program for sale next year.

And, I decided to keep the Legacy Masterclass Series open through year end, as my gift to you. I’m keeping the sessions open through year end … so you can binge watch, and learn to talk money with your family this year.

How to Talk "Money" With the People You Love ...and Why It's a MUST DO This Holiday Season

Here’s where you join the group. All the sessions are in the guides sections for you to watch immediately.

Okay, that’s it … I look forward to seeing you on the internet.

To your eyes (and hear) wide open,

Ali

Growing Pains + the satisfaction of parenting well

Yesterday, my daughter turned 23 years old. And, I am beyond happy to report that she’s become a human that I like, love, trust, want to spend time with, think is amazing, and am truly proud to hold out in the world as “my daughter.”

Of course, she’s nothing of the sort. She’s not mine, and never was. As Kahlil Gibran so eloquently reminds us: “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.”

Yet, as a parent, there is little more satisfying in life than feeling the relief of “holy cow, I did it. I raised a human who I think is absolutely amazing, and who I trust to navigate life, to be resourceful, to contribute to the world, and to take care of me if I ever need care in the future, because we’re truly in this together.”

There were so very many moments along the way of her (and my becoming) that had me question whether we would ever get here. There were times I projected my dislike of myself on her, and that I wondered if I would be able to get to where we are now.

First, before she was born, when I found out I was having a girl, I was terrified. My relationship with my own mother was tumultuous back then, and I was scared of repeating our fate.

Then, throughout the process of her birth, I sure questioned whether I was going to make it, at least a few times.

And in those early days, when all she did was cry and cry and cry and cry, I wondered how we would possibly get through.

The worst part was just as she began to enter her teen years. 

I had a feeling it would be hard because by then I had learned that Life has a way of forcing us to revisit each and every trauma of our own childhood as adults, again and again, until we feel the pain all the way through and heal it once and for all.

And, there’s been no better catalyst for me to feel everything I’ve wanted to avoid than through the lens of my own children.

They are the ultimate reflections of all that is living inside of us, aren’t they?

So, when my daughter was on the verge of 14, and I snapped at her impatiently just before this photo was taken and we were about to leave for a Halloween party, and I watched her face crumble in confusion, I could sense the foreboding of what was about to come. 

Kaia’s entrance into her teen years would bring me to my knees in a way I hadn’t quite been prepared for adequately.

I’ll be sharing many of the details here in the months and years to come, including video from that time during an upcoming training I’ll host in 2023 on Inheritance, but for today I’ll say that her journey through her teen years led me to understand what it truly means to Mother, and brought me to the beginning of my path of re-parenting my own little one.

Be Her Mother

At 14, I almost sent her away to a wilderness therapy program because I was certain I could not parent her into the woman I knew she could become. But, Life would gratefully intervene and invite me to grow bigger than I imagined possible, and to not just parent her, but myself in the process.

Together, we grew up. But I went first because I realized that if it had to be one of us, it should be me. I needed to go first. I needed to grow the fuck up so I could show up for her. And for myself. And for all of us.

But, first I’d need to do it for me.

So, I did. And in the process, I got to face all the parts of myself that were hard to look at, and all the places in myself that needed to be held, and all the places in myself that I didn’t love, or even like. 

And, of course, it began with my own mother. And my grandmother. I needed to heal with them first. 

I’ll be letting you into that journey starting in just a couple of weeks. Watch this space for an invitation to my first ever Legacy Masterclass Series — it’s coming, and it’s a good one. 

And, you are going to meet my amazing, sweet mom, as you learn to heal with your parents (or your adult children, if you are the parent now).

Here’s a little preview of the branding …

Registration link coming soon! Watch for it.

Growing Pains.

If there is one thing a pregnant woman knows, and then every mother gets reminders about regularly, it’s growing pains. Did you ever get growing pains when you were growing up? The pain of stretching is seriously no joke.

I’m pretty sure that growing Kaia (both in my belly and through her teen years) was preparing me for what was to come here and now. 

There’s no chance in heaven I’d be able to make it through my current growing pains had I not first been motivated to expand my capacity by her.

Now that I’ve experienced the expansion and contraction and expansion and contraction and expansion and contraction of the labor and birth process plus supporting Kaia to grow into a woman I love, like, trust and respect by facing my own insecurities, fears, and shadows and owning them, I get to bring this capacity to hold a huge amount without collapsing into my work in the world, and to my leadership.

Holy cannoli batman, I have wanted to collapse a lot in the past couple of months. I am being stretched beyond limits I didn’t even know I had.

I thought I was well-rooted in who I am, why I’m here, and what’s mine to do. And, Life is definitely testing my conviction and persistence around what’s mine to do.

But, it makes sense that it must.

I’m here to support the transformation of the humans who advise us on legal and financial matters.

By supporting them to transform, they will choose to advise us in full alignment with the values of all of Life itself … 

By supporting lawyers and financial professionals — insurance advisors, wealth managers, and tax strategists — to transform the way they advise us, how they get paid to advise us, and their entire ethos of advising us from the unconsciously extractive models of the past into whole systems models of love, heart, and harmony that are in alignment with the principles of permaculture … 

This is a big mission, and can only be accomplished if I myself have done the work of transformation, through and through. 

I must be incorruptible.

I must be clear on where I’ve been corruptible in the past, and where that corruptibility originates from, and how it gets healed through me.

So Life is testing me to see how aligned and committed I am. 

Life is testing me to see how much I want to support this transformation in myself, and then ripple it out because rippling it out is So. Much. Growing. Pains. 

And the motivation must be as big as the motivation that Kaia showed me was necessary as I gave birth to her, and stayed present with her through her teen years, because this ripple out is requiring me to stretch even more.

I don’t need to ripple it out to make money. 

I’ve got enough now to get off the train and chill out in Costa Rica for the rest of my life.

And, I’ve finally accepted that I do need to ripple the transformation out to feel satisfied with my role in life. 

So, I will accept the tests that come to check how serious I am, and continue to commit, and recommit, and commit again, as needed.

Because it’s worth it, as one of my mentors says “for me, for you, and for us.”

Your relationships with your parents, and your children, and all of Life are also worth it. It starts with your relationship with you, and extends to your relationship with those closest to you, and finally to your relationship with all of Life.

When you are in right relationship, the economy “out there” is irrelevant. What matters is what’s happening in here.

I look forward to showing you the way that’s worked for me, and my relations, next week.

And, in the meantime, happy BIRTHday to Kaia and to me.

With so much love,

Ali

PS … during the time that was the most difficult with Kaia, instead of sending her away to a wilderness therapy program, I took her with me to Costa Rica. And while we were there, we found Stephen Brooks and permaculture, the answers to my dreams of a life in community.

It just so happens that Stephen, and his collaborator Penny Livingston have a free training available for you, if you would love to build community based in permaculture too. You check check it out here. Register to Watch Stephen and Penny’s Community Training Here

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⭐In this free on-demand webinar, Stephen Brooks and Penny Livingston bust through three myths people commonly believe when building an earth-friendly community.

Teaching from their over 50+ decades of combined permaculture experience, they will show you the possibilities of having a community that shares your values and helps the Earth, too.

Plus, learn the secrets Stephen learned from building 3 eco-communities and his most recent endeavor, Alegría Village, which now has over 145 families living together in Costa Rica!

And, last, for our lawyers with heart I appeared on a podcast recently with Sigalle Barnes, and I think you’re going to love it.

I’m excited to share that I spoke with host Sigalle Barnes on the latest episode of the Lawyers Who Lead podcast. You’ll get a chance to hear my heart and find out where I’ve been, where I’m going, and just how many amazing lawyers I plan to bring along with me!

“Our hearts are here to lead and our mind is designed to be in service to the heart.”- Ali Katz

Put this episode on during one of your commutes this week. My hope is that you get so much value out of it.

Click here to easily access the episode and transcript of what I shared: https://lawyerswholeadpodcast.com/leading-with-heart-with-ali-katz/

You can also listen on your preferred platform. Simply search “Lawyers Who Lead” on Amazon Music, Apple Podcasts, Audible, Google Podcasts, or Spotify.

This is a big freaking deal …

Do not give up on your dreams because you never know how long they’ll take. And, this dream come true is proof in the pudding.

Last week, Personal Family Lawyer re-launched with an updated brand, updated website, and the beginning of a national marketing campaign featuring the lawyers in our community who are delivering on the PFL Promise in a way that has me inspired and excited AF.

In the next few posts here, I’ll be sharing with you how this all came to be, why living into your dharma creates a reality in which you actually cannot fail (no matter how badly you F things up), and how to break free of the lies that may be keeping you stuck or lost or off-purpose. 

I pray that my journey with PFL is an inspiration for you to keep going when things are hard, or confusing, and especially if you feel lost, as I did so often over the years.

So, here we go … the beginning and middle of the story.

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When I was a wee bit, baby lawyer — aw, look at how cute she was … this was my very first headshot, taken back when I first launched my own law practice in 2003 or so.

That one … she had a dream. A dream of a new way of practicing law. A different way. A better way. Eventually, she coined the term “Personal Family Lawyer” and began to dream of a PFL in every neighborhood.

In service to this dream, she wrote a book, and began appearing on TV and radio all across the nation, sharing about this dream … of lawyers with heart, who loved their clients, and were loved by their clients.

She was a regular on Good Morning America, the Today Show, and Fox, and she really believed she was doing what she came to planet Earth to do. Certainly the external world seemed to be reflecting that back to her.

But, something was off … while it all looked really great from the outside, something wasn’t right on the inside. She didn’t know what it was though.

In her quest to figure out why “success” looked so good, but felt so bad, she almost gave up. She almost said “forget it, I don’t even want to be a lawyer. I don’t even want to train other lawyers. I hate it all. I hate myself. I hate lawyering. And I hate lawyers.”

She felt and thought these things because she was lost, scared and confused.

She wondered “did I really go to law school, and take on $100,000 in loans, and work so hard just so I could make money and help other lawyers make more money? Is this really what my life is supposed to be? Something doesn’t seem right.”

Time and again, she came up against a challenge of having followed all the rules, and in many ways winning all the games, and yet it felt like losing.

Eventually, as she searched her soul, it turned out she didn’t think she could be all of who she really is AND be a lawyer AND help lawyers.

Plus, being in business was really hard given how little she understood about stewarding wealth in the world in a way that felt good, and right, and true and beautiful. Repeatedly, she felt taken advantage of, attacked, caught off guard by the reality of how hard it is to be a leader in our culture … and how little she knew how to protect herself from the sad realities of business, and the dangers of becoming “succesful” in a tall poppy culture.

It was simply too much, and none of it seemed to make sense.

So she walked away from all of it, moved to a farm and filed bankruptcy.

For a year, she did only what she would do for free.  At first, it wasn’t clear what that was. So she drove her kids to school every day, and went grocery shopping, and even cleaned the house. These very normal things were things she had forgotten how to do without help.

So, in the beginning of that year, she relearned how to do the normal things people do, when they aren’t running million dollar plus businesses.

Then, as she asked herself “if money didn’t matter, and I wasn’t making any decisions based on money (or at that time, the lack of it), what would I do?” Call-in radio! That’s what she’d always wanted to do.

So, she launched a show — a 4-hour livestream every week — called The Whole Truth Show.

It’s very sad that there are no longer archived episodes from the Whole Truth Show, as we’re pretty sure it’s the best thing she ever did, and may ever do. 

From there, as she began to get curious with what else she would do if she was only going to do it for free, she found herself doing lawyer stuff, but in a completely new way …

  • She was helping two business women complete a partnership in such a way that it saved their work in the world; 
  • She supported her best friend at the time to launch her estate planning practice, as – it turns out – a Personal Family Lawyer;
  • And, she worked with that same best friend to create a virtual training for estate planning lawyers, so they wouldn’t have to leave their kids, and homes, and offices and travel all around the US to learn how to do estate planning the right way.

This was quite a surprising revelation because she really thought she was done with lawyering, done with training lawyers, and done with being a lawyer … but on the other side of bankruptcy, and the fresh start that came with it, it turned out that the Personal Family Lawyer dream had not died, after all. 

It had just been clarified, honed and refined.

And, it turned out that there was a lot this young woman needed to learn about life, and love, and leadership and legacy in order to hold the bigness of the PFL vision, and the fullness of the dharmic pull associated with it.

The vision would need to wait for her to grow up, and also to figure out how to train enough lawyers to actually fulfill on the PFL Promise. 

Because what she discovered in that year of only doing what she would do for free … PFL wasn’t just about making more money for lawyers, or even teaching lawyers to market their services, and it certainly wasn’t just about what she wrote about in her first book Wear Clean Underwear or even the New Law Business Model book.

Personal Family Lawyer was about a new way of lawyering, and serving clients in a much deeper way, and helping lawyers create meaning in their own lives by helping their clients create meaning in theirs.

It would take time for her to become the woman who could stand for all of this. 

It would take time for her to understand the true nature of inheritance, and legacy. 

It would take time for there to be enough lawyers to serve the clients who would want a PFL for their family, once they understood how important it is to leave your family with the support of a trusted advisor.

It would take time for her to learn to stand in her full power.

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And here we are … 

These past months have called me more into my power than I ever imagined would be the case. 

I’ll share more about that in a future post.

For now, Personal Family Lawyer is here. 

I’ve finally become the woman who can hold it all.  And as we relaunch the brand and change up our offerings at New Law Business Model to accommodate the reality of PFL being back online and at the forefront …  Life is certainly testing me to find out.

More on all that in a future post.

For today, I have a request. Please check out our new Personal Family Lawyer socials, and follow us on one or more of your favorites plus tag me in a comment @thealikatz so I know you checked us out. 

Here’s the link to each:

Thank you for being on this journey with me. For life … and love … and legacy.

Ali

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In my recent Masterclass, you are going to learn all about Personal Family Lawyer: what it is, how you can become a PFL, and why you might want to, IF you either provide estate planning services now, or have ever considered it.

On the Masterclass, you’ll discover how to build a successful law practice with… 

a service you love to deliver 

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